Obviously, you know how to make your partner feel good in the bedroom. But if you’re trying to mix things up a deliver a surprise to your partner, did you know there’s a ton you can do without having to go full-on Fifty Shades? The good news is, you have what you need already. It’s…your mouth.
"Your mouth can deliver an incredible range of sensations," says Shelley Hess, author of Pucker Power: Great Kissers Make Great Lovers. Apply a naughty nibble, a barely-there brush of the, lips or a tantalizing tongue wiggle to the right area of his body and he'll hit the ceiling, thinking, "Wow, how'd she do that?"
Basically, it's optimal foreplay. Try out these sexy mouth moves to give your guy an insane time in the bedroom. (And if he's worth his salt, he'll use his mouth on you, too.)
1. Pay Attention to His Ears
…But no need to go crazy. The ear can pick up subtle sensations — and less is more, says Sándor Gardos, Ph.D., sexologist at mypleasure.com. Here’s what to do: Place your lips an inch away from his ear and release a slow sigh. Then, hen take his earlobe between your lips and gently tug. This will pull at, and indirectly stimulate, the nerve endings inside the ear. "These nerves are almost never stimulated, so you'll really blow his mind when you do this," says Gardos. So, yes: ears can be an erogenous zone!
2. Don't Forget His Fingers
If you think kisses on the hand are only for men courting women in the 1940s, then you haven't tried this one: Place the tip of your tongue on the webbed area at the base of his fingers, then slowly slide your way up the side. This move will give him goose bumps because this area is very sensitive — but, like the nerves of his inner ear, it rarely gets much attention, says Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. Then, to make him completely crazy, take the tip of his finger between your lips. "It's suggestive of what I could be doing down below," says Fran, 39. (Hello, foreplay!)
3. Kiss the Roof of His Mouth
So you figure you've explored every inch of his mouth with yours? Truth is, the one area that's often ignored is the roof of his mouth, which is one of the most ticklish parts of the body, says Hess. So the next time you're lip-to-lip, flick your tongue once or twice in an arc along this area (any more might send him into a fit of giggles). Katrina, 33, has found that this move works wonders on her husband. "When people kiss, they always go for the tongue," she says. "But the first time I ran my tongue along the roof of my husband's mouth, he was like, 'Whoa!' Now I know that if I ever want get a rise out of him, that's what I need to do."
4. Tease Him
Gently graze your lips (keeping them as dry as possible) across his forehead, looping slowly over to his temple and then down to his mouth. This dry brushing, as Hess calls it, will have a completely different feel from the usual wet kiss. That's because the face is covered with nearly invisible fuzz called vellum hairs. A slight, subtle touch will activate these hairs, inducing sublime shivers.
The sweetness of this kiss will also strengthen your emotional ties to each other, says Nataly, 31. "It's tender but sexy, and it always makes my husband smile," she says. Which means that a kiss like this says, "Let's get it on" and "I love you."
5. Notice His Neck
Few kisses establish an I-want-you-now connection like ones on the neck. To take the passion level up a notch, gently pull his head back and to the side, which will expose an extra-sensitive tendon running from the ear to the shoulder, says St. Claire. Starting at the base of his ear, work your way down the ridge, randomly alternating between small nibbles and gentle kisses so he won't know what's coming next.
6. Try a New Sensitive Spot
The underside of your tongue will feel really good on his most sensitive spots – namely his nipples, an often ignored erogenous zone on men. Its silky texture will feel so sexy on his most sensitive spots – namely his nipples, an often ignored erogenous zone on men. "Although many men are embarrassed to say it – because it seems like something only women should like – they secretly crave to have you pay attention to this area," says Gardos.
So flick the bottom part of your tongue from side to side across these sweet spots. Then, as he gets into it, throw his senses for a loop by switching to the rougher, upper side of your tongue, alternating back and forth. "Nerves tend to go numb when they receive the same type of stimulation for too long," says Gardos. But when you switch from one type of texture to another, you'll keep his senses on maximum alert – which will keep him begging for more.
7. Kiss His Thigh
Starting right above his knee, plant a light-as-a-feather kiss there, then work your way up, increasing the pressure of your lips on his skin the farther you go. That's exactly what Lisa, 36, does to get her husband primed for super hot sex. "Women typically think men don't like foreplay, but my husband loves this," she says. "And sometimes I'll prolong the agony by starting over again down at his other knee. He goes crazy with anticipation."
8. Play With Temperature
All you need is a cup of coffee or an iced drink for this trick. Take a sip, then press your hot (or cold) lips to his inner wrist, planting little kisses up the inside of his arm. "The veins are close to the surface in this area, which makes it especially receptive to touch," says St. Claire. Plus, you'll be stimulating both temperature- and pressure-sensitive nerves, creating a whole new dimension of sensations, says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing. Liza, 31, stoked her husband's sex drive with an ice-cold kiss during a picnic one day. "It was really hot out, so I drank some some ice water and then reached for his wrist," she recalls. "He loved it, especially since I almost never use props during kissing. The creativity was sexy in itself."
9. Kiss His Stomach
Between your man's navel and his nether region lies a strip of hair known as the "treasure trail," so named because of its sensitivity (not to mention the fact that it leads right where he's dying for you to go). Want to show him just how prize-worthy this trail really is? Starting right below his navel, take some strands of hair between your lips and pull – just hard enough that he can feel it, but gently enough that he's not jumping out of his skin. The pinpricks of slight pain you'll create will send jolts of electricity throughout his lower abdominal region, and even register below the belt.
"Light hair pulling indirectly activates nerves deep beneath the skin's surface, which is something straight skin-to-skin contact can't do," explains Gardos. Plus, the downward direction you're heading in will make your man's imagination run wild with hot 'n' heavy possibilities.
10. Give a Hands-Free Massage
Straddle your husband as he lies on his stomach, and then press your mouth firmly into the nape of his neck. With your tongue flexed so it's pointy, probe the grooves on each side of his vertebrae, slowly working your way down to his tailbone. "Essentially you're giving him a shiatsu massage using your tongue instead of your fingers," explains Hess. If massages usually lull him to sleep, don't be surprised if this one has quite the opposite effect. When you use your lips instead of your hands, your massage instantly goes from relaxing to racy.
11. Make Your Mouth Vibrate
Here's one you might not have thought of: humming. At first you might feel a little weird, but the payoff will be worth it. "Humming causes your mouth to vibrate in a way that feels similar to sex toys," says Gardos. Plus, varying the pitch of your voice creates a range of sensations: Lower pitches create slower vibrations; higher pitches, faster ones.
12. Pay Attention to the Knees
"This area is one of the most underrated erogenous zones. "The knees are full of nerve endings; that's why people are often ticklish there," says St. Claire. The backs of the knees are especially sensitive, since the nerves are close to the surface, she adds. For maximum sensual impact, swivel your tongue along the crease and then blow on the area. This puff of air will cause the moisture to evaporate, producing a thrilling hot-then-cold sensation. Plus, he'll be able to actually feel you breathing, which will tune his body in to yours and give your intimacy a surcharge.
13. Suck on the Bottom of His Lips
Take just his bottom lip between yours and suck on it gently, which will bring more blood to the surface of his skin, making this area even more sensitive, says Gardos. To get him in on the act, have him suck on your top lip while you're working on his bottom one; then switch. "A lot of guys know only two kisses: the lip kiss and the French kiss," says Cane. "This is something completely different, and since you can switch roles, it never gets monotonous."
14. Tickle His Torso
Even though "they won't readily admit it," there are lots of places men would love if you lavished attention on, says Eric M. Garrison, an author and clinical sexologist. He suggests flicking your tongue across known erogenous zones — like the underarm — plus not-so-expected locations, like his rib cage.
15. Introduce New Sensations
There's more to your mouth than just a tongue. "You've got a tongue, lips, and teeth," says Garrison. "All three provide a different feel." In between licking and sucking sensitive zones like his nipples, try grazing them with your teeth for a little added excitement.
16. Start Talking
It doesn't get any easier than this. While sighs and moans are sexy in their own right, whispering phrases, demands, or even just their name is such a turn-on. Bonus: Getting vocal about what you want him to do to you guarantees you'll both enjoy each other even more.
17. Call Him Up
Sexting is fun and all, but nothing beats good old-fashioned phone sex when you're far apart. Use this opportunity to describe your dirtiest fantasies to each other, and don't forget the toys: Garrison suggests using one to mimic oral while you're on the line.
18. Take It Back
"Have him lie on his stomach, then slowly trace a zig zag up his spine, starting from the very bottom," Dr. Kristie Overstreet, a California-based sexologist and psychotherapist says. "The spine contains lots of nerve endings, so you'll have him begging for more."
19. Experiment With Other Parts of His Body
Did you know that there are even more sexy places you can touch your partner? And if all those places you touch him feel good, think about how much better he'll feel when your mouth is on it. Just some places to consider: his elbows, his toes, his clavicle ... you get the idea. Every guy is different and will have different specific turn-ons, so it's worth trying new spots.
20. Ask What He’d Like – And Tell Him What You Want
Yes, questions can be sexy — but the answers can be even better. Ask him if there’s something he’d like for you to try, be it now or in the future. And make sure you tell him what you want to try — he'll be more than happy to oblige.
Saturday, February 10, 2018
More Advanced Sex Skills: Orgasms
This was one big deer; it was mid day, and I was shocked to discover people walking by without noticing it.
They didn’t expect it to be there, that close to downtown, so they didn’t see it.
When you don’t expect to see, hear or feel something you are less likely to notice it. Most men experience orgasm and ejaculation as a couple: happening at the same time. So they aren’t likely to discover that they can have many orgasms without ejaculation.
In much the same way most people don’t have orgasms as they ride the elevator, take a walk in the park or sit in rush hour traffic. But just knowing that they can, and that some people do makes it more likely that you and I will.
And if we do, won’t that change the whole flavor of traffic jams?
Let’s explore how you might be able to have a lot of fun with orgasm, just by altering your perception of what is possible.
If you want many more orgasms, whether you are having sex or not, read Shoot the Moon.
If you are a man or want your man to experience multiple orgasms try When One Orgasm Isn’t Enough.
Shoot the Moon
Having many orgasms is much more about energy than it is about having more sex.
With enough sexual energy you will naturally orgasm.
When I got home from a particularly intense Iron Shirt Chi Kung workshop I cuddled up next to my partner. As I usually do in such a fabulous situation I relaxed waiting patiently to discover what would happen.
Often, the key to great play has nothing to do with reaching for a breast or rubbing a thigh like you have done before. And much more to do with being open, fully curious to discover what you do next.
I reached for her ear lobe and held it between my thumb and first finger. I had no idea why. But after about a minute she began to shake, a little at first and then more. What followed was seven full fledged full bodied orgasms. I held on for the 10 minutes that this wild ride took: amazed.
The explanation I came up with afterward is that I was flowing so much energy, especially sexual energy, that orgasms resulted. I have no idea if this is actually what happened. Often the stories we tell ourselves after a miracle are less miraculous than the miracle itself.
Over the next several days I discovered that she could orgasm regularly without any stimulation of her sexual parts. She dug it, and it blew me away.
It also expanded my world of sexual possibility.
One of the practices that we had done in the Chi Kung workshop is we had stood still for almost an hour. That is a long time to just stand without checking your phone or reading a book or watching TV.
I needed something to do, so I imagined the center of the Earth full of sexual energy, like a soft sweet Tootsie Roll Pop. I reached into that soft center and pulled that sexual energy all the way up to my belly.
For the better part of the hour I pulled more and more. When the teacher announced our standing was done I wanted more. I had dreaded the idea of standing that long, but felt like I could remain there forever. For several days afterward my sexual energy raged through every part of my body. I felt young, powerful and alive, younger than my years.
I could focus attention on my shoulders, wrists, or feet. And when I did it felt like the best sort of energetic massage possible. I discovered not only that I could have as much energy as I wanted, because I only needed to pull it from the center of the Earth, but that sexual energy is both arousing and healing.
As I mentioned, when I got home I discovered that the sexual energy I had accumulated generated multiple effortless orgasms too.
Feel free to explore your own sexual energy, and in the process you are likely to discover that many incredible things become possible. Don’t let what you think is possible determine what you attempt. When it comes to sexual energy and sex assume that anything is possible and you are likely to have an outrageous sexy time.
When one orgasm isn’t enough
For a man to have a second, third or fourth orgasm you need to tempt orgasm out from behind ejaculation, discovering that they aren’t Siamese twins.
You can have an orgasm without ejaculation, and that is the key to male multiple orgasms.
It is often best, at least at the beginning, to practice during masturbation. Begin by bringing yourself right to the edge of orgasm, but not over it.
Doing so you will discover that the edge isn’t as distinct as you imagined. When you don’t rush over it you can hang out there, feeling many sensations that you haven’t noticed before.
With practice you will get ever closer to orgasm, and in the process you will be making more subtle distinctions learning about your sexual self.
One day, or evening, you are in for a great surprise. You will get right up to the edge of orgasm and a full body relaxation will greet you there. Instead of crossing the border you will stand on it: orgasm will come out to meet you, without ejaculation.
Make no mistake, this will be a full bodied, sparkly, tingly orgasm. It will light you up, but there won’t be a let down on the other side of it. Your penis likely will remain hard and you will continue to be sexually excited.
It may take some practice to experience your first orgasm without ejaculation. But it won’t be long until you have the second, third and fourth.
Like riding a bike you will have discovered the knack of it and be able to have as many orgasms as you want.
But be gentle with yourself, no need to go for the Guinness world record for the most consecutive male orgasms. And feel free, if you wish, to cross over the border and ejaculate anytime.
Ejaculation after several orgasms reveals that orgasm is grown up pleasure and ejaculation just a release of energy, leaving you a little forlorn or disinterested.
When you can orgasm repeatedly you will be a much better lover. You won’t seek the brass ring, orgasm, because you can orgasm easily. Instead you will be able to focus more attention on your partner and pleasure for both of you.
With your partner your multiple orgasms are likely to be a present, making sex better and more fun for both of you, but unlike a present you don’t have to keep them a surprise. Let your partner know what you are up to as you practice. Share your multiple orgasm journey.
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Friday, February 9, 2018
Safe sex myths
Some people believe, or may try to make you believe, all sort of myths about safe sex, including:
- Planning ahead for sex ruins the mood.
- You can tell by the way someone looks that they do or don’t have an STI.
- Practicing safe sex implies that one of us has an STI.
- Practicing safe sex implies that one of us is an intravenous-drug user.
- Lesbians don’t get STIs.
- Taking the pill means I practice safe sex.
- Condoms ruin the feel of sex.
- Buying condoms is embarrassing.
Overcoming barriers to safe sex
Safe sex doesn’t have to be a drag. Tips include:
- Be prepared for safe sex – it doesn’t have to be a passion-killer. Carry condoms in your wallet or purse and keep them handy at home, so that you don’t have to interrupt having sex to look for one.
- If you find condoms reduce the pleasure that you or your partner experience, drop a bit of water-based lubricant in the tip of the condom for extra feeling and sensitivity.
- Learn how to use condoms. They may take a little getting used to, but it’s better than catching an STI.
- Involve condoms in foreplay – for example, apply a condom using your hands or mouth.
- If you feel too embarrassed to buy condoms in a pharmacy or supermarket, buy them from vending machines in some public toilets, from mail-order sites or grab a handful from a community health centre or sexual health centre.
- Hormonal contraceptives, such as the oral contraceptive pill, only provide protection against unplanned pregnancy. They provide no protection against STIs.
- Prioritise your sexual health – it is important.
- Don’t think you can tell if someone has an STI just by looking at them. Most STIs don’t have any obvious signs.
- Educate yourself about STIs. Anyone who has sex is at risk.
- Be mature about STIs and reassure yourself and your partner that an STI is not a moral judgement of character, but an infection like any other. Having an STI does not mean that you are ‘dirty’ or ‘cheap’.
- Have STI tests if you are in a relationship and you want to have sex without a condom. Both partners should be tested. Think of STI testing as a sign of respect for each other.
High-risk or unsafe sexual activities
Unsafe sex outside of a monogamous relationship increases your risk of getting a STI. Examples of unsafe sexual activities include:
- having sex without a male or female condom
- withdrawing the penis before ejaculation instead of using condoms (pre-ejaculatory fluid may be infectious and can also contain sperm resulting in pregnancy)
- trying to re-use a condom or using a condom that is past its use-by date
- using a condom incorrectly or continuing to have sex once the condom is broken
- getting bodily fluids like menstrual blood, semen or vaginal fluids inside another person’s body (for example, mouth, vagina or anus).
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